“Doing The Right Thing”
Why say sorry if you can say thank you instead?
We all make mistakes and it’s nothing wrong with that.
My concern on this start with: “Sorry I didn’t mean to” you say it because its the easiest way to escape from the trouble or just because it sounds nice and makes you look sharp and cool or just simply to make it easier.
I completely understand that it’s not always your fault but sometimes it’s good to apologize.
Normally in a communication act there is a transmitter and receiver this is basic I know but we must understand that when we act, not always the receiver interprets the action we take or message the way we want. In this case placing the first person as a sender. Often a situation of tension or stress both parties intend to calm the situation or put an end to the conflict but not always a simple apology is easy to show and which does not mean that this will be the solution. sometimes it is good to be prepared for an answer like: it’s too late to apologize. Don’t be surprise if this happens.
You can say something else instead of ‘sorry’ / such as:
1. Demonstrate compassion and empathy
2. Mean, sorry when you say it.
3. First or before say it you need to < Pause | Silence >, and then you may like to add something else before saying “Sorry”
- 1 – I’m sorry used for telling someone that you are ashamed or unhappy about something that you have done that has hurt or upset them.
- 2 – excuse me – when you interrupt someone this is what we can call the correct or typical way of saying sorry.
- 3 – Expressing regret -This language appeals to the emotions. It indicates that we are aware that we caused pain. “I’m sorry I spoke harshly. I know I’ve hurt your feelings and I’m so sorry for that.”
- 4 – I’m afraid used to politely introduce bad news or disagreement: “I’m afraid you’ve completely misunderstood the question.”feeling fear, or feeling worry about the possibleresults of a particular situation: “I’ve always been afraid of flying”
- 5 – Regrettably used to say that something is disappointing which causes disappointment or regret.
- 6 – ‘I’m sorry’ ‘I’m so / very / really / genuinely sorry’ To be honest, this sounds like lie or that someone thinks I’m stupid or dumb. if someone wants me to apologize I like in the first place to feel that that person is being honest to me.
- 7 – ‘I was wrong’ – we have a chance to be wrong at least once in our live “for instance” – I was wrong to suggest that we take this bus. Now we’re lost. I’m sorry.’
- 8 – ‘I’m an idiot’ “sorry about that – I never really understood why certain people call themselves idiots to apologize.
- 9 – ‘I’m awfully / terribly sorry’ – I must admit that “Calling you incompetent at the meeting was inexcusable ‘
- 10 – Whoops! Sorry! This is my favorite one , maybe because it first sounds honest.
IT'S NICE TO DO THE RIGHT THING
As a child and even during my teenage stage I was educated by my family and also at school, to apologize or rather “saying sorry”. Usually I was kind of forced to do so for me most of the times did not make much sense. Most of the time I was contradictory to this type of situation by the fact that no one have to say sorry just because it’s afraid of the consequences. I understood then that people say “sorry” just for a social or political reason and simply to maintain social harmony.
“Apologies are sometimes employed to help “reset the conversation” after a confrontational, argumentative, or uncomfortable moment. However, “sorry” also represents shame and regret and can make you look weak.” Tory Paez